I am horrible at asking people to do things for me. About half the time I come across as the wicked witch with a B making demands. For the other 50%, I'm so lacking in confidence and direction no one would even want to be bothered by me.
Years ago I used to be a secretary, or administrative assistant. You know, there person (usually female) who gets told what to do, when to do it and how to do it. If you work for anyone, and we all do, we are all some one's secretary. Our customers tell us what they want; our managers tell us what they need; our families tell us what they don't want or need. We get told all the time, when is it our turn to ask for help?
I'm a procrastinator. There is someone I work with with whom I am to coordinate my administrative needs. She's not a secretary. She's not under my 100% direction. She has work and responsibilities all of her own that I have nothing to do with. She is also the person who's supposed to order my training supplies, make catering arrangements, and work with facilities to set up meeting rooms.
Why do I feel each time I ask her to do her job that I'm imposing on her? Why can't I just say, "Please order two flip charts for me. Thanks!" Then walk away and receive the flip charts two to three days later? Is this too much to ask?
After worrying about how to order lunch for tomorrow, I went to the source. I found an old email about the new cafeteria (I'm spoiled, we have one on site). There was a number to call, which I did. The person I spoke with said I could email her, and I did. Now I'm getting lunch for 18 on Tuesday. Easy as pie. Why would I ever go back to asking, "Please order lunch for 18 people on Tuesday. Thank you!"? There are no slings and arrows to face, no checking up, other than the normal kind. Of course, if it's 12:05 on Tuesday and I'm still waiting for lunch, I might be singing a different tune. Please wish me luck!