I know someone who is amazingly, incredibly, wonderfully likable. He radiates warmth and compassion. I don't know what goes on in his head or heart, but I would guess that the same things that people experience in his presence are the things that fill his mind and wishes.
How does he do it? What makes him so comfortable in his own skin? (I heard that expression last week on ER, though I have heard it before.)
When you are at ease with yourself, others grow soothed and are comforted. When you are afraid, embarrassed or insecure (or all of the above), your suit does not fit right. It bulges in the most unsightly places. Your fears fill big pouches that hang like skin and flesh about you. They are as palpable as 10 or 20 weights. You wear them like the chains of Jacob Marley.
As you may have guessed, I'm not at ease in my own suit. My Sue Suit is either two sizes too small or three sizes too large. I haven't figured out which, and that may be the biggest problem. I'm not sure if I should be enlarging my presence or minimizing my stance. I know definitely that my girth needs mitigating, that is the one thing I am positive of.
But how do I expand my mind and heart and keep my ego in check? In other words, how do I be the best me that I can be?
i personally think that you are too hard on yourself. you have many, many excellent skills and attributes..focus on them instead.
Posted by: mom | January 24, 2005 at 11:36 AM